There are a few things to remember before attending your first orgy. These tips are mostly about safety, etiquette, and preparedness.
Flirting is the main form of interaction at orgies, but they do not tolerate unwelcome touching or coercion. Moreover, disease prevention is very important, so be sure to bring plenty of condoms.
1. Know Your Limits
Even if you’ve attended many play parties in the past, there are always new things to learn. That’s especially true when it comes to orgies, as they’re notoriously kinky and can include anything from intercourse to cumming.
While most people at an orgy want to get their hands dirty, everyone is expected to respect other attendees’ boundaries and comfort levels. If you’re not comfortable with something, be sure to say so. It’s better to do so early on than have someone start touching you and you suddenly realize you’re fucking in the cuddle puddle.
To help everyone feel safe and supported, Harris said orgy hosts should greet guests warmly and repeat whatever specific rules are for that party. They should also offer safe sex options (like toys, manual and oral) and talk about barriers like condoms or dental dams. And they should pair up greenhorns with more experienced players, if possible.
2. Know Your Necessities
When it comes to orgy etiquette, knowing your own needs and desires is crucial. If you’re attending a party with the intention of getting intimate, make sure you tell your partner ahead of time what kind of play you’re comfortable with — are you only looking for oral and manual, or are you into penetrative sex? “It’s important to communicate boundaries and expectations, and for those who have never been to an orgy before, it would be helpful to pair up greenhorns with experienced people,” Harris says.
Orgy hosts should also be sensitive to guests’ needs and concerns. At Harris’ parties, for example, everyone sits in a circle to introduce themselves and declare their limits and expectations. This helps establish accountability, which creates a safe environment. It also ensures that no one gets hurt or feels uncomfortable. Even seasoned play party attendees can be nervous before an orgie, but if they follow these tips, they can put their minds at ease and enjoy themselves to the fullest.
3. Know the Rules
While much of the details surrounding orgy etiquette are up to each individual and may vary from one event to another, there are some general guidelines to follow. For starters, it’s generally accepted that attendees should be well-dressed and look their best. This could mean wearing flattering clothes, smelling good with perfume or cologne and having shaved body parts.
In terms of sex, participants should always have clear verbal consent and be able to say no to something they don’t want to do. This is especially important if drinking or drugs are involved, as they can affect a person’s ability to give consent.
Harris also says it’s a good idea to learn what’s expected from the organizer of the play party you’re planning on attending. She recommends asking for a list of rules and expectations, which will help ensure that the orgy is safe and enjoyable for everyone.
4. Be Prepared
Orgies offer a lot of flexibility in terms of the types of play you can engage in, from oral and hand jobs to penetrative and manual sex. You can also use toys, film your experience, integrate elements of BDSM and even wear a blindfold.
The type of play you can do at an orgy depends on the participants and their individual desires, so be sure to communicate with your potential partners before the party begins. It’s a good idea to make sure everyone is on the same page about what they want out of the experience, including whether or not they are okay with kissing or non-penetrative play.
It’s a good idea to meet in person with the organizer of an orgy before attending to make sure that they are trustworthy and safe. This is especially important if you’re going to attend an orgie that promotes drinking and drug usage. Be sure to talk with the organizer about rules, safety, condom usage and safe words.
5. Be Patient
When it comes to orgy-specific rules, it is important to be patient. It takes time to find the right people and build sexual chemistry, especially if you are new to this type of scene. It’s also important to make clear your boundaries and what you are and aren’t comfortable with, whether it’s oral sex or kissing. It’s better to discuss these things in advance than to wait until it’s too late.
It’s also important to avoid getting too intoxicated. Getting too drunk can interfere with your ability to give clear consent, which is essential for safe and pleasurable experiences during an orgie. If you are going to drink, try alternating your alcohol with water. This will keep you hydrated and will also help prevent any hangovers or other potential side effects. Also, be sure to wear loose clothing and use protection as needed. And don’t be afraid to take a break if you need one.